See you later Mommy!

You know your kids is tired of being home everyday with Mommy when this happens:

“Bye Mommy.”

“Bye Daddy.”

“I have my lunch.  I go to school.  See you later.”

Says my almost 2 year old as he heads to the back door in his Batman pajamas with a tin lunchbox he found.

Don’t let the door hit you on your way out Xavi!


But on a more serious note, not only is his vocabulary amazing, but his pretend skills are up to par with my 4 year old (who, in case you don’t know this, has Autism).  I know I should not compare kids, but Xavi’s development blows my mind!  It is probably typical, but to us, who only know Jaylen, it is wild.  Every once in a while we get some pretend play from Jaylen, more lately, but Xavi just gets it.  And at 2 Jaylen was still not saying anything except a few mumbles only my husband, sister, and I understood.

So as not to end on a down on Jaylen note, I will add that by 2 he could already identify every letter of the alphabet, numbers through 20, count by 100’s, and complete a shape sorter in .5 seconds.  And Xavi still doesn’t yet know his colors.  I have 2 very, very different kids.  And I love it!


12 eyes

Well, the JCPenney portrait studio people are gonna be pissed this year.  They will have a hell of a time fighting with the glare coming off our family shots.  3 of us are 4 eyes now.

We had no idea just how bad his eyesight was.  He recently started squinting, which gave it away.

We all would sit on the couch to watch TV and he would sit in his own little folding chair right next to the screen.  Him needing to be this close to the TV, and considering his brother is almost blind, we decided to get his eyes checked.  Sure enough, he has severe myopia like Jaylen and I.

It is amazing to watch him adjust to being able to see.  For two days now he has been looking at everything, even me, differently.  He walks around saying, “oh my gosh, oh look at this.”

The day Xavi got his first pair of glasses, age 2
The day Jaylen got his first pair of glasses, age 2

Did he shoot his eye out?

You know your kid was screaming way too loud when…

You walk into the waiting room of your son’s eye doctor’s office and everyone turns and looks at you and your two kids with a look of horror.

As you slowly drop all 5 bags you needed to bring, filled with enough snacks and toys to last 2 1/2 days, you can see people looking your son over for injuries.

Surely the ophthalmologist must have poked his eye with a hot rod of iron!

He must have taken one of his eyes out!

The number one or number two machine must have fallen on the child severing a limb!

No folks, nothing of the sort.  He simply dilated his eyes.  Yep, 6 eye drops, the doctor, a nurse, and I holding him down.  But every 6 months it gets a little easier.  We’ve been doing this since he was 10 months old and he’s turning 4 so it’s getting pretty old.


Brain Rotting Fun?

When Jaylen was a year old, he had a tendency to become addicted to certain things.  We didn’t know it was Autism yet, but knew him not connecting with us, retreating into his own world, and filling and dumping buckets for hours was strange.  I can still hear his first home therapist’s nervous and appalled laughter as she told me not to let him fill and dump or play with dirt for more than a half hour.  Who knew?  I thought he was just really independent.

One of his “things” was TV.  He loved certain shows and could watch Noggin (now Nick Jr.) for hours on end.  I always judged those parents who let the TV babysit their kids before I had kids of my own.  For us, the only alternative to tantrums, self injurious behavior, the constant filling and dumping, or spinning in circles was TV.  So we let him watch.

Fast forward 4 years and Jaylen is really not into TV much at all.  He will request an episode of SpongeBob most days.  According to him, “I don’t watch little kid shows anymore, just big kid ones.”  Which is crap because as soon as Xavi is watching a “little kid” show his eyes are glued to the screen.

In the winter, we watch more TV out of cabin fever and boredom.  Now the weather is nice, we are out most of the day, and when we come in the TV just stays off.  As long as they are not asking for it, why use it?  Every once in a while they will be hyper or fighting and TV is a good way to calm them down.  Sometimes I need to get work done and the TV does babysit for a half hour.  Overall, it does feel good to find other things to do besides TV.

The boys in 2009
The boys in 2010

Am I one of those people that thinks TV rots kids’ brains?  No.
Do I think it may affect their attention span?  Yes.
Can we find other things for our kids to do to get exercise, interact socially, and learn actively?  Easily.
But do I love when I get a minute to myself as Chuggington is blaring from the playroom?  Absolutely.