A Mushroom Family

The National Autism Association has this to say about Autism:
  • “Autism impacts the normal development of the brain in the areas of social interaction, communication skills, and cognitive function. Individuals with autism typically have difficulties in verbal and non-verbal communication, social interactions, and leisure or play activities.”
Wikipedia has this sentence in the Autism section:
  • “People with autism have social impairments and often lack the intuition about others that many people take for granted.”
This picture is how I would define Autism to someone who didn’t understand my son:
Our Family
Jaylen drew this group of mushrooms to represent our family.  Jaylen has learned how to communicate, not always the right way, and has just begun to show some empathy.  He does not think, see, act, or react like we do.  This is the closest we come to those happy family drawings kids do.  He has to go around the touchy, feely, lovey route and end up at…well…mushrooms.
**Side note: Wikipedia has a lot to say on Autism.  And if you are a parent, don’t go there.  I was bawling my eyes out reading some of the number and statistics that are on there, some of which I know are not true.  But they are still upsetting.  I don’t need to hear yet again that my son will probably never have friends or live alone.**
And this picture is next to the definition.  Who the hell has this many canned goods???

Only 51 Days Till Christmas!!!

As I sipped my morning coffee yesterday I breathed a sigh of relief when I saw this:

Thank goodness!
I still have 51 days to get teacher and therapist gifts, wrap everything, make cookies, buy groceries for Christmas dinner and a week of guests, get a few last minute family presents and…
What, oh, Jaylen just mixed the 1 and the 5?  So you’re saying I have only 15 days left?  I gotta go…

Is that your Ear Tube?

You know your life is “A” Typical when this happens at Walmart (of all places):

Me: “Alright guys, you can each pick a box of fruit snacks.”

Xavi: “Dora!”

Jaylen: “Mom, what’s this?  It just came from my ear.”

As I look up from the floor, since the fruit snacks are on the lowest shelf and I am hunched down there, Jaylen hands me something brown.

Me:  “Eww, I don’t know.  Oh wait, that is your ear tube stuck in the middle of a ton of wax.  Hmmm, the doctor said one of them was white.”


Anyone else’s kid have tubes?  Jaylen had massive fevers and ear infections for 2 months straight and had tubes put in at 14 months (2007).
 Pissed Toddler Pre-Op
Then a blood clot surrounded one so we had to redo it at 16 months (2008).
 Happy Toddler Pre-Op (has no idea what’s coming)
For years he has had one bright green tube and one white tube.  Now he has none.

He. Is. Vaccinated.

We shall NOT go into the debate folks.

I just had to share that Jaylen had not had all his vaccines until just now.  I do not think vaccines caused his Autism.  He does not have regressive Autism, he was definitely born different; having classic Autism.  But I did decide to delay some vaccines just because.  I had to trust my mommy gut there.

But he had to have a few things in order to continue school, which made it a no brainer.  And when the Dr. asked if we should just catch him up on another I said OK.  It was hard for me.  Very hard.  But I rationalized that I have not heard any stories of kids regressing as late as 4.  If you have, please let me know!

He did very well getting the shots and I watched him like crazy.  I told myself that if he woke up the next day and could no longer talk I would never forgive myself.  But so far, so good!