Jaylen’s Autism makes him extremely literal, but I am starting to realize how literal most young kids are. I taught PreK, Kindergarten, 1st and 2nd grade before having Jaylen, and guess by those ages most kids get sarcasm, and understand what to take literally.
This post on Mommy To Two Boys is about how Jaylen processes the term “private school.” His literal thinking is one of those things I enjoy, crack up over, and love about him.
We recently moved and every time I mentioned our “old house” Jaylen asked when it was going to fall apart. When I told him a new family was moving in he was surprised they would live in a house that was old. When in actuality our “new house” is in worse condition than our “old house.” In Jaylen’s mind, for some reason, all things die or fall apart when they turn 100 years old, so he assumed the old house is close to 100 and will crumble to dust any minute.
At my grandmother’s 89th birthday party he basically told her she had 11 years left till the reaper came for her.
I could go on and on with stories like this when it comes to Jaylen, but recently Xavi made me laugh hysterically over the same thing. He was singing a Lady Gaga song which I started singing too. After a few minutes I told him he got the song stuck in my head. He pulled my head down and started pushing my hair all around searching for something. When I asked what he was doing, he said he was looking for the song stuck in my head.
I guess taking things literally isn’t only for kids with Autism, neurotypical kids do it too (even though Jaylen does it a LOT more). Oh, the things I’m learning by being a mom to both…
No. My son has not been “cured” of Autism. But for one night, for one single solitary night I felt free from the constantly overwhelming disorder.
It was Autism Family Night at the Mystic Aquarium in Mystic CT. We got into the Aquarium for free (thank you Pfizer and Mystic) and got to see two shows specially prepared with less sensory stimulation.
Almost instantly, I got chills and a huge smile came across my face as Jaylen:
started banging on glass tanks,
and yelling repeated phrases of other kids
I did NOT have to stop him.
He was free,
I was free,
There would be no yelling,
No apologies to other people,
And no embarrassment tonight.
And THAT, ladies and gentlemen, is freedom.
No where else, at no other time, is it acceptable for my guy to be who he is. It was the most amazing, liberating, and happy feeling.
Both my boys ran, yelled, and acted silly. And no one batted an eye.
I didn’t have to feel bad or sorry. I didn’t have to apologize to anyone because of their noise or running.
I didn’t have to explain to other parents why my son was doing what he was doing. He got in other kids faces, a recent issue we’ve been having, and no one cared. In fact, many other kids were doing it too. I didn’t have to explain why he repeated things other kids said or yelled when they yelled or apologize for it. Everyone understood.
It was also such an eye opener to see so many kids and adults all over the spectrum. Everyone is affected in different ways. But generally speaking, they all have issues that set them apart from the “norms” of society.
At one point my sister turned to me and said, “It’s just crazy to me that everyone else here, all these other parents, are dealing with the same things you are. You are all going through this daily. They are all going through what you do every day.”
And for some reason, that makes me cry. Each time I replay that thought, I cry.
You know you need to wash your hair when…
Your 3 year old sits on the couch next to you, starts touching your hair, and then says,
“Mom, why does it look like your hair is wet here at the top?”
OUCH! And it wasn’t even gonna be a hair wash day.
Sorry Britney. You know I love ya.
If you buy this book, which you really should, go to page 179 (total coincidence that is my birth month and year January 1979) and read “The Suspense is Killing Me!” Yes, that’s right, my work in a published book.
Wit and Wisdom is perfect for any parents of special needs kids, especially those on the spectrum. Parents of newly diagnosed kids will find this different than every other Autism book out there. What we have is a compilation of essays from some of the best storytellers I know, who also happen to be parents of kids on the spectrum. Teachers, therapists, educators, and anyone else who works with kids with Autism will get joy, understanding, and information from this book.
So where can you get your copy? At Amazon or just click on the link right there to the right.
Thank you to my good friends Lynn and Big Daddy for putting this together! What an awesome project.
Also, I was recently hired to be somewhat of a reporter for a local news website. So far, I haven’t begun, but I will be taking on assignments soon. I will definitely provide links once I start!