Where I’ve Been

I realized it has been selfish of me to not post in a month.  I have received countless emails and tweets asking if we are all OK (countless=15).

The deal is, I’ve been just enjoying summer with the boys.  I needed a break from everything and set aside blogging, my writing course (just finished an assignment 2 weeks late), and at the end of the day I am so tired I end up reading until I fall asleep!

Here’s what we’ve been up to. A little of this:

The boys really starting to get along, for at least an hour a day
Our ghetto zoo, no really, it is in the middle of the ghetto, look it up, Bridgeport, CT

This will lead to another summer activity: a hospital trip

A lot of this:

Season passes at Playland, the boys love it

A little of this:

And a WHOLE LOT of this, we are at the beach at least 3 times a week.  We pick a spot and camp out for 7 or 8 hours a day.

Oh, and I’ve started running.  Yep, you read that right.  I got my fat ass in gear and starting running from Jaylen’s summer school to the beach, about half mile, and then run at the beach until I feel like I am on the verge of death (about 5 more minutes), then I briskly walk back to the school.  It is great me time and I feel so good after…waaaay after I’ve stopped.

There is no photo of that because it would be horrifying!

Brain Rotting Fun?

When Jaylen was a year old, he had a tendency to become addicted to certain things.  We didn’t know it was Autism yet, but knew him not connecting with us, retreating into his own world, and filling and dumping buckets for hours was strange.  I can still hear his first home therapist’s nervous and appalled laughter as she told me not to let him fill and dump or play with dirt for more than a half hour.  Who knew?  I thought he was just really independent.

One of his “things” was TV.  He loved certain shows and could watch Noggin (now Nick Jr.) for hours on end.  I always judged those parents who let the TV babysit their kids before I had kids of my own.  For us, the only alternative to tantrums, self injurious behavior, the constant filling and dumping, or spinning in circles was TV.  So we let him watch.

Fast forward 4 years and Jaylen is really not into TV much at all.  He will request an episode of SpongeBob most days.  According to him, “I don’t watch little kid shows anymore, just big kid ones.”  Which is crap because as soon as Xavi is watching a “little kid” show his eyes are glued to the screen.

In the winter, we watch more TV out of cabin fever and boredom.  Now the weather is nice, we are out most of the day, and when we come in the TV just stays off.  As long as they are not asking for it, why use it?  Every once in a while they will be hyper or fighting and TV is a good way to calm them down.  Sometimes I need to get work done and the TV does babysit for a half hour.  Overall, it does feel good to find other things to do besides TV.

The boys in 2009
The boys in 2010

Am I one of those people that thinks TV rots kids’ brains?  No.
Do I think it may affect their attention span?  Yes.
Can we find other things for our kids to do to get exercise, interact socially, and learn actively?  Easily.
But do I love when I get a minute to myself as Chuggington is blaring from the playroom?  Absolutely.


I did it for…

I walked for Jaylen.

I walked for all the kids I know with Autism, who are loving, sometimes frustrated, special kids.

I walked for frustrated parents doing the best they can.

I walked for the parents who just got the diagnosis and are confused, sad, lost, and hopeful.

I walked for people who raise awareness, promote understanding, and do the research to help our kids.

I walked for Jaylen.

(In the pictures: me, my husband Gerald, Jaylen, Xavier, my Mother-in-law “Mimi,” and my sister “Aunt D”)

I am at Theta Mom

Today I am guest posting at Theta Mom.

Yes, you read that right, I. Am. At. Theta Mom.  If you don’t know her, you should head over now.  She is an amazing woman, mama, entrepreneur, and blogger.  And I am so proud to be a part of the Theta Mom Community.

Theta Mom was one of the first bloggers I met when I started this blog a year and a half ago.  She was very supportive and gave me tons of advice on blogging, time management, and dealing with not so nice women we meet in this blogosphere…and she still does!

Thanks for the opportunity Theta Mom!   

Even more good news, I won a huge blog makeover from SITS and Studio Bold.  So stay tuned for a massive overhaul and reveal!

Now everyone head over to Theta Mom and read what I have to say about being a work at home special needs mom.

And stay tuned for my next post on where we went yesterday.  Hint:  it was a Zumba class for kids with Autism.  Discuss amongst yourselves and then I’ll tell you what it really was like.  Yeah, it’s that good.